Many of us have myths about how and what a man thinks of our thoughts and actions or as to how he would react to our behavior. Here are a few myths and its reality.

MYTH#1: Men are intimidated when a woman has had a lot of sexual partners.

REALITY: Honestly, men try to spend as little time as possible thinking about how many people you’ve been to bed with and what you did sexually before meeting us. They’re glad you have the mechanics down, but, beyond that, ignorance is bliss. It isn’t the experience that freaks them out; it’s the talking about it that’s the real problem. When you tell them you learned this amazing technique from another guy you dated, they’re then stuck with the mental image of you steaming up in bed with another man just like how we, women think. Not cool! So tell them you found that move in a Kama Sutra book and have always wanted to try it out. Yeah, they’ll know you’re probably fibbing, but they’ll be much happier without that ’other guy’ in their heads. What they don’t know can never hurt them!

MYTH#2: “Slutty” is an out-of-date concept. Men expect women to be as sexually forward as they are.

REALITY: Well, maybe, maybe not. Let me ask you this: How special would you feel if they made it clear to you that they’ll pretty much go home with anything in a skirt? Not very, am I right? Men often convey to you that they’re attracted to you sexually early and often, and you tell them how far they can go and when. Generally, nobody’s more surprised than they are when you say “yes” right off the bat. This doesn’t mean they’ll think you’re a slut if you sleep with them on the first date, but we will wonder why we were able to seal the deal so quickly. They may decide that the chemistry was simply too amazing to wait. On the other hand, They might think that you aren’t all that discriminating about who you take to bed. If their goal is to find a temporary sexual partner, this isn’t necessarily a problem. But if they’re looking for something more long-term, we may decide to keep searching until we find someone who wants “us,” not just anyone with the right anatomy.

MYTH#3: Men want women who are completely sexually free.

REALITY: Actually, they’re not nearly that hard to please. Mainly, they’re just looking for a partner who’s sexually compatible. As long as you’re open to about 80% of the things they enjoy, they aren’t going to bail out just because you don’t share their fantasies about sex on a moving motorcycle (I’m not even sure that is possible, but, hey, these are fantasies, right?). In fact, they’re going to feel much more pressure if they think you’re saying yes just to prove how free and open you are. The last thing we want is to lead you somewhere you don’t really want to go. So tell them what your limits are. They’ll respect them. And if they’re too far apart in their sexual tastes, then maybe the relationship isn’t really what either of you wants or needs.

MYTH#4: Men lose interest if a woman makes them wait for sex.

REALITY: There are a lot of different kinds of waiting, and their reaction is going to depend largely on what they think is behind the delay. If they think you’re genuinely taking the time to get to know them before becoming intimate, they’re often flattered by that and willing to hang in there for a while. They love the idea that you’re choosy because it makes them feel amazing when you eventually do choose them. On the other hand, they’re not idiots, and they’ll disappear pretty quickly if they think you’re simply stringing them along, seeing how many free dinners you can score before admitting the chemistry just isn’t there for you. That may sound cynical, but every guy over the age of 25 has found himself dragged around by the nose at least once by a woman who wanted nothing more from them than a free meal. So the best way to keep them interested is to be truly interested yourself.

MYTH #5: One night stands never lead to happily ever after.

REALITY: Unlike you, most men don’t spend their teen years fantasizing about finding and marrying Ms. Right. For them, choosing a life partner is as much about timing as it is about the woman. If they aren’t ready personally or professionally for a long-term relationship, no connection is going to work out in the long run, whether you jump into bed with them right away or make them wait it out. On the other hand, if they’re ready for commitment and they think you might be the right one, they won’t be scared away by the timing of their first sexual encounter. That said, this is one myth that does have some roots in reality. One night stands often involve alcohol, and there’s just no telling whether they’ll feel the same chemistry with you once they’ve sobered up. Maybe this is why you rarely meet married couples whose “how we met” stories involve six Long Island ice teas and a mechanical bull.

Men are flesh and blood just like us but the important thing we, women, need to know is that a long term relationship is the last thing on his mind for a man who is not personally or professionally ready and hence any effort or attempt from your side is nothing but trying you luck at winning a lottery.